I was going through my Facebook when I came across this post about “becoming a Virgin again.” The value placed on virgin brides in our culture has led to much talk about “reconstructing” virginity and the legal relevance of virginity. Not to mention that the virginity or more importantly the bleeding myth associated with female virginity has caused so many women their lives in the subcontinent already. So it seems only fitting that we should end with an inflated device designed to fake virginity by mimicking the breaking of the vaginal tissue known as the hymen. The hymen is a thin piece of skin that partially covers the entrance to the vagina. It usually breaks during sex, if it hasn’t already broken before.
Most people think that every woman has a hymen intact. It will bbreak during the first intercourse which will make her bleed. The bleeding during intercourse is the proof of a woman’s virginity. Well, before going into any other details, you don’t need a medical degree to understand that if a woman’s hymen is completely intact even her menstrual fluids and other discharge won’t exit her body. So here’s the fact: Hymen is NOT completely intact.
The hymen can break quite easily before a woman has sex for the first time, through activities such as horse riding and other sports, using tampons, etc. A woman may not even know that her hymen has broken, because it doesn’t always cause pain or noticeable bleeding. And some women are even born without one. So a broken hymen doesn’t necessarily mean a woman has lost her virginity.
Some facts about hymen:
Some girls are born without a hymen. The hymen may tear naturally when a girl plays sports or engages in any physical activity. Hymen is not always smooth but tends to be perforated. The perforations may get bigger and cause the hymen to break once a girl menstruates. It can be broken by the use of tampons. It may be very small or very elastic so that no breakage occurs at all. Some women even become pregnant while their hymens are still intact. A hymen may not bleed when broken.
Given these facts it is extremely sad that women, especially in our culture, are still expected to bleed on their wedding nights. It’s considered a proof that they are virgins. And that they often pay severe consequences if they happen not to bleed. Society shame and humiliate them, their husbands instantly divorce them and their families even kill them. To avoid such disasters, women have resorted to various tricks to ensure that they bleed. It’s high time to stop reinforcing the patriarchal system of oppression because ignorance will only help businesses like “become a V – again” flourish.